Ugh, Now I Need a Shower

via: lacigreen:

via: edonaghey:

"There is a fundamental concern that the content of such magazines normalises the treatment of women as sexual objects. We are not killjoys or prudes who think that there should be no sexual information and media for young people. But are teenage boys and young men best prepared for fulfilling love and sex when they normalise views about women that are disturbingly close to those mirrored in the language of sexual offenders?" -Dr. Peter Hegarty
Could you tell the difference?

1. Rapist
2. Rapist
3. Lad Mag
4. Lad Mag
5. Rapist
6. Lad Mag
7. Rapist
8. Lad Mag
9. Rapist
10. Lad Mag
11. Rapist
12. Lad Mag
13. Rapist
14. Rapist
15. Lad Mag
16. Lad Mag

…..wow

I just... How... I need a shower.

I mean, I'm all for dirty talk, rough sex, and Domination play. Done right, that kind of play is super fun and awesomely sexy!

But that's kinda the point: it's PLAY.

It's only sexy if you're doing it with someone who you care about and who--in-scene, out-of-scene, whatever--actually cares about you. 

If you're doing it right, role play, humiliation play, power play, sensation (pain) play, even consensual non-consent play should NEVER leave you or anyone involved feeling degraded or used or less-than once the scene ends.

If it does, please--PLEASE--stop. We so very rarely say it in kinkland, but You. Are. Doing it. Wrong.