I'm a girl and AHHHH!
This is yet another reason why people need to learn about their kinks before they try to act them out.
Fun With Frying Pans
And--as much as the squicky, balls-backward CBT play is terrible--what I hated most was when the writer says, "But I'm wondering, since dom women probably don't care if they fuck up the guys they torture, should I be concerned about permanent damage?"
If this is your idea of BDSM--if this is your idea of an ideal play scene or play partner--you really shouldn't be doing this. I can't even imagine why you would want to.