Geeks Gone Wild - Let's Get Wild Together!

For all my kinky, Midwest nerds, I'll have a special CONvergence Exclusive Offer for those who come say hi around the convention. So be on the lookout for a Marionette Puppet Girl, a Bridesmaid Yoshi, and a Centaurette and find out what kind of fun I have in store for you!

Geeks Gone Wild - 50 Shades of NOPE!

For all my kinky, Midwest nerds, I'll be a panelist at CONvergence this year! Look for the Centaurette clomping round the halls, ‘cause I’ll have a CONvergence Exclusive Offer for fans who come say hi around the convention. I also hope to see you at my panels, where I’ll have some free books to give away. For some fun inspiration in the meantime, check out my run-downs of the 50 Shades book and movie.

Geeks Gone Wild - Kink Talk

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Come See Me at the Any Man Book Tour on 7/11

For my Minnesota bookworms, I’ll be doing a short reading of my work at the beginning of a local event for Amber Tamblyn’s Any Man national book tour at Magers & Quinn Booksellers in Minneapolis on 7/11 at 7pm. Tamblyn’s new book sounds evocative and intriguing and I’m so impressed that she is using her platform to help showcase and amplify local women writers of color, trans, disable, and queer identities. Please come out and discover her book as well as some great local talent!

Geeks Gone Wild - Flirting 101

For all my kinky, Midwest nerds, I’ll be a panelist at CONvergence this year! Look for the Marionette Puppet Girl running round the halls, ‘cause I’ll have a CONvergence Exclusive Offer for fans who come say hi around the convention. I also hope to see you at my panels, where I’ll have some free books to give away. For some inspiration in the meantime, check out this piece about The Mating Habits of the Modern Geek

Geeks Gone Wild - Come Meet Me at CONvergence

For all my kinky, Midwest nerds, I'll be a panelist at CONvergence this year! I’ll have free book giveaways for fans at my panels as well as a CONvergence Exclusive Offer for those who come say hi around the convention. Stay tuned for more information and make sure to mark these on your schedules! 

A Lesson and Love Letter to Myself

**Apologies for the vagueblogging, but I've been having a week/month/year lately so, you know, if you can't vent on social media, what is is all for, in the end?**

Attitude and respect are important, especially when you’re trying to ask something of someone. People’s time and effort are valuable and non-renewable; once used up, they are gone forever. Appreciating that before, after, and especially in the moment that you are asking them to spend that precious resource on you is vital.

I’m trying to remind myself that I should never have to apologize for having a life I love. I’ve worked incredibly hard for it. I continue to work incredibly hard for it. There are many aspects of my life—from my friends to my partners to my work to my passions—that I feel immensely lucky to have, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t deserve them.

I must remember: Making myself miserable will never help someone who is miserable feel better. Even if they are struggling, if their response to that struggle is to force me to struggle—not ask me for help or be willing to discuss ways that we can help each other ease their stress, but demand and expect their struggle to become mine—I have the right and the responsibility to myself and the people who already rely on me to walk away. Refusing to allow a miserable person make my life miserable by treating me like garbage does not make me an awful or selfish person. That idea is a trap; one I have fallen into too many times in my life. It cannot make them better; it can only make me worse.

And anyone who would ask that of me doesn’t deserve anything from me.